An unexpected pregnancy can bring strong reactions from the people closest to you. A friend may insist that “abortion is the most practical choice.” Your parents may worry about school, finances, or your future. Your partner may keep repeating their opinions until it becomes difficult to think about what you want.
You do not have to make a decision simply to ease someone else’s anxiety or appease others. Aggieland Pregnancy Outreach offers free, confidential services to help you learn about your pregnancy and think about your next steps. This is your decision, and we’ll provide a supportive environment throughout the process.
Contact us today to schedule an appointment.
Your Thoughts Matter Most
It is normal for loved ones to have opinions, especially when they are worried about you. The problem begins when those opinions turn into pressure to make a specific decision.
You may hear pressuring statements such as:
- “You have no other choice.”
- “I won’t help you if you continue the pregnancy.”
- “You need to take care of this right away.”
- “Having a baby will ruin your future.”
Pressure may also be less obvious. Someone might dismiss your concerns, avoid discussing alternatives, or repeatedly bring up abortion after you have asked for space.
When you truly feel supported, you can ask questions, gather information, and reach your own conclusion. No matter the person’s relationship to you, no one else has the right to make this decision.
Set Firm Boundaries
You are allowed to pause a conversation that has become overwhelming.
Try saying, “I know you are concerned, but I need time to think,” or, “I am not ready to keep discussing this right now.” You may also decide to speak only with people who can listen without trying to steer your decision.
A little distance can help you recognize which opinions belong to you and which ones are coming from others.
Get the Full Picture
Before deciding, learn what parenting, adoption, and abortion could each look like in your circumstances. Think beyond the immediate reaction and consider each option.
Confirming your pregnancy can also give you useful information. An ultrasound can help determine how far along you are, whether the pregnancy is located in the uterus, and whether the pregnancy is progressing. We can provide referrals for this service following a positive pregnancy test with us, all at no cost to you.
Gathering accurate details can help you make a decision that prioritizes your health and future.
Know When Things Have Gone Too Far
Repeated guilt, threats, intimidation, or attempts to control your money, housing, transportation, or medical care are not supportive behaviors.
If someone is threatening your safety or trying to force you into a pregnancy decision, reach out for help. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24 hours a day at 800-799-7233, or you can text START to 88788.
Make Room for Your Own Decision
The people in your life may have strong feelings, but they do not have to navigate the outcome of this decision in the same way you will.
Aggieland Pregnancy Outreach offers a confidential place to talk, ask questions, and learn about the resources available to you. Contact us today to schedule your free appointment.
Aggieland Pregnancy Outreach does not provide or refer for abortions.