In the past, many young couples were pressured into marriage as a result of an unplanned pregnancy. That pressure occurs less frequently today. Statistics show that 90% of teens who get married because of pregnancy will be divorced within six years. The percentage of divorces goes down slightly the older the couple is when they wed.
Some will tell you that getting married is the only “right” or “responsible” thing to do. The father of the baby may feel that it is his duty to get married. You may feel at a loss and marriage may sound comforting and secure. Some will say it is best for the baby to be born into a family with a mommy and a daddy who are married before the baby is born. Hopefully you are in a position to make this decision without undue pressure.
Marriage to the man or woman of your dreams is a wonderful blessing. But marriage is still a difficult relationship even in the best of circumstances. Learning to live unselfishly with a husband or wife and adding the responsibility of raising and supporting a child puts a tremendous amount of stress on a couple.
Children require security and stability.
A stable marriage provides a secure environment for children.
When their parents are living in a loving and harmonious relationship, the child will feel loved and secure. But marriage requires commitment for the long haul. Even the most mature and “in love” man and woman may one day fall “out of love” with the other. It requires commitment to stay together even when you don’t feel like staying.
If you are a pregnant woman considering marriage, think through some of the following questions:
- Do you love the father of the baby?
- Would he make a good father?
- Does he show responsibility?
- Does he have his own place to live separate from friends and family?
- How long does he stay at the same job?
- Does he save money?
- Does he pay his bills on time?
- Did he graduate from High School, College, or have skilled job training?
- How does he treat you?
- Does he make you feel good about yourself?
- Is he someone you can always count on?
- Can you see yourself married to him for the rest of your life?
- Would you get married to him right now even if you were not pregnant?
If you are not 100% sure that you love him and that you want to be married to him for the rest of your life, take time to consider some other options for your sake and for the sake of your baby.